casia sobolewski

somatic sex educator

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  • "I felt safe from the first moment I entered Casia’s door. I am keen to come back and I am grateful that I learned “taking with limits” which was also super fun to experience. But the most I loved was her PRESENCE. Incredible healing for me! I am feeling so much more alive, centered and empowered."

  • "Casia's openness, perceptiveness and communication skills were very reassuring. It’s the kind of skill that’s difficult to teach. Her comments also helped me clarify what I was really looking for."

  • "Every session was mind blowing. 
I already feel more connected to myself, more trusting in my body and in others, and that the healing process is rolling thanks to you.
 Both my partner and I are really grateful."

  • "I am very grateful for the opportunity you provided for me to safely work through some of my fears, to reprocess sensations, to create newer non-traumatic memories, and to experience that acceptance you showed towards me."

  • "Thank you, truly, for holding space for me, and holding me physically. Thank you for not shaming me or judging me or mommy-ing me. Thank you for the gift you give of your whole self. I don't know if you realize that your mere presence on retreat is like a warm, soft blanket. I feel instantly calmed and safe when you are around. The way that you hold space for others is profound and deeply nourishing. "

  • "Casia’s presence was also an active and attuned guide and guidance— she is someone who names the invisible, invites inquiry curiosity, and brings the sacred into sharp, embodied clarity. There is a premise that “even the profane can be sacred.” Casia seems to know this intuitively. "

  • "Literally the embodiment of eroticism; boundaried, fierce, capable."

  • "I just felt so incredibly safe with her. The invitation into the erotic in a very safe way was and is palpable. She is a sacred gate-keeper, holding the portal open for anyone who is curious."

  • "What she offers is profoundly regulating. Potent in its subtlety. Fierce in its certainly. There’s something about the way she orients that makes my system say yes. Yes to breath, yes to staying, yes to going deeper. Yes to creative expression of it, yes to getting to what might want to be expressed and how. A limbic welcome home."

  • "I trusted her without needing to build a bridge. Anything and everything feels welcomed, embraced, not to be shamed or distorted but to be set free and expressed, so thoroughly not boxed up, not pidgion-holed. Utterly and thoroughly welcoming of diversity and non-binaryness of self expression for all. Her presence in the field of this work was not background — it was essential."

Casia (pr. Casha) is located on the unceded Coast Salish Territory of the Lekwungen and W̱SÁNEĆ nations, colonially known as Victoria, BC.

Casia offers somatic sex education through in-person or virtual coaching to help individuals and couples reconnect with their bodies and enhance intimacy. She provides compassionate inquiry for personalized guidance.

Her work is body-based, trauma-informed, and touch-inclusive. Her roots are based in Toronto’s queer and non-monogamous communities, and she strives towards anti-oppressive frameworks. She served as a board member of the Somatic Sex Educators Association and the Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers. Casia also works with Back to the Body: Sensual Retreats for Women and Him-Eros: Retreats for Men.

Curious about somatic sex education? Connect with Casia to learn more.

  • Explore pleasure and joy for your highest thriving

  • Re-pattern trauma responses around sexuality & intimacy

  • Supportive erotic coaching for personal and partnered experiences (couples are welcome!)

  • Embodying authenticity in Kink and BDSM

  • Coaching on ethical non-monogamy

What is Somatic Sex Education/Sexological Bodywork?

Somatic Sex Education is learning about pleasure through the body. It acknowledges that pleasure is a fundamental resource of being a human on this planet and that sexual health and erotic education are healthy and basic human rights.

While all practitioners vary in the structure of how they work with clients, my focus is on titration; small doses of positive experiences to support the nervous system, brain, and body to rewire towards pleasure. This practice allows for our nervous systems to settle together, creating space for ease in relationship as we venture down a path of dropping into your erotic body.

My practice is based around Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent as a format for understanding touch agreements. Additionally, I use some exercises and techniques from Surrogate Partner Therapy training.

My priority in session is your body and the integrity I feel in my own body. You are in complete control of what happens in session, and while I will offer suggestions of how we might unfold, we will practice pausing, saying No, and asking for what you want.

In my opinion, Somatic Sex Education is the version of sex ed that we all could’ve used much earlier in life.

You are not alone. You are normal.

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As per the founders of the Somatic Sex Educators Association, Somatic Sex Education is an umbrella term for multiple forms of sex education that focus on the body. “Sexological Bodywork” is a form of somatic sex education, a full definition of sexological bodywork is available here: Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers

A primary difference in my own practice is the boundary of uni-directional touch. In sexological bodywork, the direction of touch only goes from practitioner to client. I believe that there can be great benefit to the exploration of mutuality within an educational container. Mutuality is the exploration of a relational space, and we are relational beings. In this space, it is imperative for me to trust your Yes and your No, and I may not offer this container to start with.

To learn more, please reach out to me.

 

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Background, Training, & Employment

Practitioner & Teacher with Back to the Body: Sensual Retreats for Women by Pamela Madsen, 2018 - Current

Board Member of the Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers, 2019 - 2012

Board Member of the Somatic Sex Educators Association, 2018 - 2022

“Like A Pro” Wheel of Consent with Dr. Betty Martin, 2018

Co-Founder & Practitioner at HIM-EROS (previously The Apollo Project: Retreats for Men), 2018

Certified Somatic Sex Educator & Sexological Bodyworker, SSEA / Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education, 2017

Intern Surrogate Partner, International Professional Surrogates Association, 2017

Certified Holistic Sex Educator, Institute for Sexuality Education and Enlightenment, 2015 - 2018

Founder of Spit.Exposed, Toronto’s Queer & Feminist Porn, 2014 - 2019

Volunteer with Planned Parenthood on HIV Awareness, 2015

Founder of “Body Pride,” naked workshops for body love, 2012 - 2016